Your preschool age child is growing in leaps and bounds. The children are learning important life skills that lay a strong foundation for how your children function in the world.  

A child’s self-perception and place in the world is shaped. Children who feel that they are important to their parents will develop healthy self-esteem. Children who are treated kindly by attentive parents and caregivers develop the core understanding that they are deserving of being treated with respect. It will shape the way they feel about themselves and how they expect to be treated by others in the future.  It forms the base setting of their self esteem.

Thefore by building a strong bond between you and your children you provide your child with a strong emotional foundation.  Here are some tips of how to get this accomplished. Spend special times with your child during which you are entirely focused on your child.

Pay attention to your child when the child is talking with you and is trying to communicate with you. When you child has you full and undivided attention you signal to the child, that the child is important to you. By responding to the child and by answering the child, or by asking questions to make sure you fully understand what the child is trying to say, you show the child that you genuinely care.

Praise the child and make sure the child really fully understands what exactly you like about a child’s behavior. Generic praise is confusing. Specific “labelled” praise helps the child grow understanding of what behaviors are welcome and what behaviors are to be avoided. When a child makes a special effort to please you, make sure you let the child know how happy the specific behavior makes you. Let the child know that you appreciate your child’s effort.

One way to show the child the difference between what is desired behavior over unwelcome behavior is imitation. Show the child what it looks like when the child is crying, throwing itself on the ground and kicking its feel. Imitate the child when is well behaved as well. Demonstrate the behavior and provide words to go along with the behavior. These interactions can be turned into fun games as well.

The key is for you and the child to communicate, to pay close attention to each other and to have fun while learning.